HOBO HOMEFRONT: Before speaking, consider what you're really saying

Published: Monday, March 24, 2014 at 08:06 AM.

These are the different communication styles. So ask yourself: “Is this approach the best one to use right now in order to reach a successful outcome to the problem at hand?”

Constantly consider this question, because the communication style you choose could derail the conversation, take focus off the other person, block the other person from finding a solution, create distance between you and the other person or diminish the other person’s motivation and sense of being valued.

Your chosen style could have long-lasting effects if you offer a high-risk response such as ordering, threatening, moralizing, advising, offering a logical argument, questioning, judging, praising, name-calling, diagnosing, reassuring or diverting.

Listening, on the other hand, is a disciplined skill. You can’t do two things at once if one of them is to be listening well. You can’t listen if you are trying to figure out what to say. Also, don’t expect to listen well if you are busy assuming.

Just a few things to reference over spring break. Have a safe week.

Amber Kelley lives in Laurel Hill. Send news or comments to Hobo.homefront@gmail.com or P.O. Box 163, Laurel Hill, FL, 32567.

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